Explanation time.
Sep. 8th, 2010 12:08 pmFrom now on, I'll be cross-posting from Dreamwidth. What does this mean? Well, nothing really. I'll still be active on LJ, and so long as you're friended here, you'll still see everything, even f-locked and filtered posts. Nothing's changing except each post will have the little "This entry was posted at X. You may comment here or there using OpenID." That's the only difference.
So, no, you don't have to have me friended in both places, and so you don't keep seeing the same posts on both sites, you only have to friend one or the other.
The why for this can be summed up by reading this post. I'm like![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
cleolinda. I don't want to leave LJ, so I'm not. I have loved LJ for a long time, and Dreamwidth will never have the sort of clout LJ does (and to be fair, they don't want to because they've said they prefer being like the "corner store").
My biggest problem is that LJ and Facebook are now so closely enmeshed with one another. There are many reasons I don't have a Facebook. Leaving aside their horrific record with user privacy and their crappy Terms of Service, I am really uncomfortable with putting my legal name out there where people from my past can find me and read about me. Sure, it wouldn't exactly be impossible to figure out who I am based on a few entries here, but something about Facebook really makes my skin crawl, plus should I ever experience harrassment, Facebook has demonstrated they won't handle it.
I imported my LJ, filters and all, over to DW, so should I get really spooked by what I see, I can delete this journal and not lose anything.
I wish I could explain it, and I know some people will just roll their eyes and say I'm being paranoid, stupid, or both, but I have nightmares about certain people finding me and snooping in my life. I moved out of my hometown because I don't want anything to do with anyone, and so I could finally feel safe to be who I really am. Yes, I'm an adult, but it's hard to explain what hell my life was growing up there and living there. There's also more than one incident in my life of people going above and beyond to get dirt on me. I've had private e-mails read by a snooper, and I've even had a different person call my then-landlord posing as a perspective landlord/employer when she wasn't anything close to that (and then-landlord fell for it and revealed some private stuff that s/he shouldn't have). Out of those two people, I know at least one of them has a Facebook and is still connected to my life in a round about way. It has happened before and I can't explain how horrible that feels to someone who hasn't had that happen. So, yes, maybe it's silly, but this is something that terrifies me and makes me very, very uncomfortable.
I'm going to stick around for as long as I feel safe and comfortable. Should I decide I'm going to delete or start posting solely over on DW, I will make sure to post a notice here so people can keep track. For now, there's no reason to add me there or defriend me here (unless you're inclined to do so for other reasons).
So, no, you don't have to have me friended in both places, and so you don't keep seeing the same posts on both sites, you only have to friend one or the other.
The why for this can be summed up by reading this post. I'm like
cleolinda. I don't want to leave LJ, so I'm not. I have loved LJ for a long time, and Dreamwidth will never have the sort of clout LJ does (and to be fair, they don't want to because they've said they prefer being like the "corner store"). My biggest problem is that LJ and Facebook are now so closely enmeshed with one another. There are many reasons I don't have a Facebook. Leaving aside their horrific record with user privacy and their crappy Terms of Service, I am really uncomfortable with putting my legal name out there where people from my past can find me and read about me. Sure, it wouldn't exactly be impossible to figure out who I am based on a few entries here, but something about Facebook really makes my skin crawl, plus should I ever experience harrassment, Facebook has demonstrated they won't handle it.
I imported my LJ, filters and all, over to DW, so should I get really spooked by what I see, I can delete this journal and not lose anything.
I wish I could explain it, and I know some people will just roll their eyes and say I'm being paranoid, stupid, or both, but I have nightmares about certain people finding me and snooping in my life. I moved out of my hometown because I don't want anything to do with anyone, and so I could finally feel safe to be who I really am. Yes, I'm an adult, but it's hard to explain what hell my life was growing up there and living there. There's also more than one incident in my life of people going above and beyond to get dirt on me. I've had private e-mails read by a snooper, and I've even had a different person call my then-landlord posing as a perspective landlord/employer when she wasn't anything close to that (and then-landlord fell for it and revealed some private stuff that s/he shouldn't have). Out of those two people, I know at least one of them has a Facebook and is still connected to my life in a round about way. It has happened before and I can't explain how horrible that feels to someone who hasn't had that happen. So, yes, maybe it's silly, but this is something that terrifies me and makes me very, very uncomfortable.
I'm going to stick around for as long as I feel safe and comfortable. Should I decide I'm going to delete or start posting solely over on DW, I will make sure to post a notice here so people can keep track. For now, there's no reason to add me there or defriend me here (unless you're inclined to do so for other reasons).
