Oh my lord....seriously? SERIOUSLY???????? This article/website/whateveritis sounds like it was written by someone who is a little full of themselves and bitter that they're not getting any. Thus, since they are perfect, they MUST have a disorder!
I would also like to state, for the record, that I suffer from depression, social anxiety, and am extremely emotionally distant especially in relationships, and if anybody would be a candidate for "involuntary celibacy" it would be me. However, not only am I NOT celibate, but I have difficulty getting OUT of the relationships I get in and I often have to turn down offers for random sex with random strangers I meet at bars, clubs, or on the way to class/the grocery store. Celibacy does NOT bother me in the least, due to lack of sex drive from both the depression, the medicine that treats the depression and my own natural low keyness, but more so my lack of attraction to pretty much everybody. Thus, when I am not in a relationship, I am usually quite voluntarily celibate. Sometimes, even when I AM in a relationship. So, I'm afraid I just cannot jump on this bandwagon, folks.
Also, I agree with what you said completely. If one is actively turning down opportunities for sex, one is thus CHOOSING to not have sex, thus negating the "involuntary" part. Also, about the suicidal, drugs/alcohol and such...it really isn't the lack of sex that's the problem, there and help should really be sought. In fact, thinking lack of sex is the problem might actually make it more difficult to uncover the real problem in such a case.
If someone were disabled, incarcerated, a victim of genital mutilation, or some other such thing, then I could see them as possibly being involuntarily celibate, but it would still not be the condition. It would rather be an affect of another condition.
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Date: 2009-05-04 08:01 pm (UTC)This article/website/whateveritis sounds like it was written by someone who is a little full of themselves and bitter that they're not getting any. Thus, since they are perfect, they MUST have a disorder!
I would also like to state, for the record, that I suffer from depression, social anxiety, and am extremely emotionally distant especially in relationships, and if anybody would be a candidate for "involuntary celibacy" it would be me. However, not only am I NOT celibate, but I have difficulty getting OUT of the relationships I get in and I often have to turn down offers for random sex with random strangers I meet at bars, clubs, or on the way to class/the grocery store. Celibacy does NOT bother me in the least, due to lack of sex drive from both the depression, the medicine that treats the depression and my own natural low keyness, but more so my lack of attraction to pretty much everybody. Thus, when I am not in a relationship, I am usually quite voluntarily celibate. Sometimes, even when I AM in a relationship.
So, I'm afraid I just cannot jump on this bandwagon, folks.
Also, I agree with what you said completely. If one is actively turning down opportunities for sex, one is thus CHOOSING to not have sex, thus negating the "involuntary" part. Also, about the suicidal, drugs/alcohol and such...it really isn't the lack of sex that's the problem, there and help should really be sought. In fact, thinking lack of sex is the problem might actually make it more difficult to uncover the real problem in such a case.
If someone were disabled, incarcerated, a victim of genital mutilation, or some other such thing, then I could see them as possibly being involuntarily celibate, but it would still not be the condition. It would rather be an affect of another condition.