Hey, ladies! Guess what? Your man is a cheater by virtue of being male!

Thanks to a community I lurk watch, I stumbled upon this CNN article about "negotiated infidelity."

First off, "negotiated infidelity" sounds like an oxymoron. If you've discussed opening a relationship and allowing your significant other to take on more sexual partners (and s/he follows the rules you've laid out), then it's not cheating or infidelity. It's an open relationship. Of course, it's still entirely possible to cheat in an open relationship, but not if you're adhering to the mutually agreed upon guidelines.

Hill's memoir, "Sugarbabe" details her yearlong adventure with a series of so-called "sugar daddies." The book sold 24,000 copies in her native Australia, according to her publisher, and has just been released in the United States. Holly Hill is a pen name.

"I thought it was men that would like the book," she says, "But in fact it's women, because what it says to women is that if your man cheats on you, he still loves you, and he's probably running about average."

While it's true a cheating partner/spouse in all likelihood still loves you, s/he doesn't respect you enough to be honest with hir feelings. S/he is also selfish and dishonest, doing something that brings hir pleasure and putting it before your emotional needs. Not to mention putting your health at risk if the cheater doesn't take care of hir sexual health.

Loving your partner isn't enough if you treat hir like garbage, and just because someone loves you doesn't mean s/he is healthy for you.

( More bullshit under here. Lots more. )